Intimate Marriage Ceremony at Eleven Madison Park Restaurant

Eleven Madison Park Restaurant keeps the nicest staff.  They are smart, sophisticated, and gracious hosts.  Perhaps the employees are commendable because their employers allocate nearly every Sunday as a day-of-rest.  Truly, this restaurant understands that if you make your staff happy, they will be gentler towards patrons.  Besides the joy of the personnel, my couple married amid lovely elegance.  In its earlier years, Eleven Madison Park Restaurant was not a public restaurant: it offered fine dining for executives.  Now it offers luxury to the discerning public. Imagine a soft, handsome romantic scene, and you will get a sense of this restaurant’s interior.

J+L also proved that customized ceremonies are not the only route to a meaningful exchange of vows.  On the evening of their ceremony, the groom expressed to me the sentiment that even though they were together for many years, saying the classic vows within a traditional civil ceremony (they choose my semi-formal service) really marked and reinforced their commitment.  And the bride later wrote: “Thank you so much for marrying us! We had such a terrific wedding it couldn’t have been more perfect :)

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Wedding Ceremony in the Green Building, Brooklyn

Where do a secret speakeasy style lounge, a cavernous feeling, dilapidated warehouse, and charm combine?  At the Green Building, of course!

It is a darkish, romantic “raw space” with a funky back-room area that represents the welding together of refinement and urban grittiness. My couple even brought along their dog for photos, although he didn’t stay for the reception.  It was such a joy officiating a refined, yet informal ceremony there!

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Family gets married in an elegant ceremony at Grand Central

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Judie,

Sorry it took me so long to reply, our computer was broken and I could only see the pics from my phone.  We absolutely love them!!  We are very happy with how they came out and are so excited to have them.  You and Liam did a great job with everything and are very happy we chose you to help us on our special day – and for that matter than you took us on such short notice :) .  Also we received our marriage certificate today.  Thank you again for everything.  Truly pleased with everything!  THANK YOU.

Jessica & Jon

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NYC Celebrant for Valentine’s Day

January has moved along at such a brisk and unquiet pace that I nearly neglected reminding folks about an annual Valentine’s Day wedding , vow renewal, engagement ceremony special.

Between 8 a.m. and 4 p.m. on Tuesday, 14th February 2012, couples may enlist my services for their ceremony in their home, restaurant, Grand Central, a park, museum, or another landmark in most of Manhattan, Brooklyn, and Queens by contributing $175.  Kindly note that I only have enough time left for three more couples on St. Valentine’s Day!

Normal honoraria apply for other areas, times, and fully customized ceremonies.  If you are marrying and need the public record, you will also need to secure a marriage license in New York and a witness, who can be any responsible adult, as officiants cannot sign as the witness too.

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Tying the Knot in Central Park

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Top of the Rock Wedding Ceremony

I could stare at this couple all day long; they are so pretty inside and out!!!

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Melanie and John’s love story offers reminders to take advantage of every possible opportunity. In May 2009, Melanie rushed to Nissan to have her car serviced on a lunch break. John insisted she slow down long enough to receive his number. Their first date was a first date. Their second felt more inspired: after all, it is easy to bond over ice cream. Melanie’s friends met John at that point and decided that he might be “the one.” It did not take much longer for Melanie to agree too.

Since that second date, the pair have become inseparable. On October 8, 2011, John took Melanie for a belated birthday celebration to Skies, a rotating restaurant with fantastic views. The waiter snapped a photo. As the waited snapped another, John dropped to his knee and proposed. Apparently, John felt confident Melanie would say “yes.” When they returned to her father’s house, she discovered family and friends ready for a surprise engagement party complete with champagne and cake………….

Melanie and John, you each give the comfort, help, and companionship the other needs to be strengthened as an individual. Honesty, trust, and faithfulness form the foundation of your bond. You accept each other; you complement and balance each other; you confide in each other; and you admire each other. Whether cuddling while watching television or encountering new adventures on trips, you enjoy being together. To your credit, both have even made sacrifices to remain a couple. When struggles came, you packed only your most precious belongings into your cars and moved to a new home in Kansas City. In other words, your friendship has developed into true love.

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Informal Winter Elopement

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Thank You Notes

Thank you so much Judie for being a part of our day and instrumental in getting what we wanted accomplished at a moments notice! We really appreciate you and your spirit! Thanks again, and here is a picture of our wonderful night~ We just got back to El Paso last night at about 11 and are really glad to begin our married life in Texas~ Take Care,
The McIsaacs,
Stacy and Kate

Dear Judie and Liam,
Rob and I wanted to thank you for making our wedding day so perfect. So many people commented on how engaging and thoughtful the ceremony was.
Liam, thank you for being so patient, especially in GCS!!! What a freak show! Our guests loved you! They thought you were so friendly and approachable.
Both of you made our day run smoothly.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Best regards,
Marisa and Rob

We were able to watch the ceremony and absolutely loved it. Thank you thank you….Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! We love love love the photos. Thank you again for getting them to us so quickly. Wow!! They are so awesome. We really enjoyed working with the both of you. Is there a site or place where we can leave feedback for the two of you. I would definitely recommend to you any and everyone we know. Thank you again for making our day so special and allowing us to have this memory for life.

Melanie and John

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A Year in the Life of a NYC Marriage Celebrant

Many of my couples assume I write a post per every wedding or ceremony.  If I did, this blog would feature twenty-four posts for December.  Yes, I did neglect the blog a little in the past few months.  I think it’s the fault of twitter.  It seems redundant to tweet something and then blog about it.  Indeed, I am feeling as though my twitter account may need to go….  Other than an internal debate about twitter, however, my life as a marriage officiant/celebrant/minister is both secure and enjoyable.

I performed 281 ceremonies in 2011.  About eighty percent or so were weddings (with licenses) and about twenty percent were vow renewals of some sort  for a remarkably diverse contingent of couples.  Perhaps half were tiny weddings with fewer than two dozen guests; a quarter had under fifty guests; and a quarter were full, formal weddings with long guest lists.  I married lots of locals and lots of couples planning destination weddings.  Naturally, being able to officiate same-sex weddings with authentic NY issued licenses, which comprise roughly twelve to twenty percent of my weddings, became the most joyous news of the year.

Liam photographed about eighty-five of those weddings / vow renewals; these were mostly elopements with a sprinkling of fuller weddings.  He actually had to decline many couples due to schedule conflicts.  Having decided to fulfill a life-long dream of becoming a nurse, Liam had to return to school to take all those pesky science and math classes he avoided as a Studio Art major.  Fortunately, he plans to continue photographing weddings for …well… until his fingers or eyesight decline in agility.  As much as I really do love meeting other photographers–especially Jen Huang, Photo Pink, Aga Images, and Kim Coccagnia, among many others–it’s fun to work with my spouse.

For the upcoming year, I plan to hold my services constant overall.  I will still respond to e-mails quickly and offer a competitive honorarium to officiate ceremonies.  The myriad types of ceremonies will likely only expand.  I will still try to keep everything concise and earthy or “sweet and simple.”  And I will still accept reservations for both short-notice and advanced-notice weddings, although couples need to know that “an agreement exchanged is the path to a ceremony arranged.”  In other words, if you wait too long to book, I may not be available.

As a team, Liam and I are not making too many alterations.  Over the past year, we have slowly, but surely, retired the original OBB package in favor of a package with more time for photography.  We both love the OBB package; however, it’s not very sustainable in the long-term: time is so precious and scarce plus lenses are pricey!  Liam plans to continue to focus on elopements and tiny weddings.

To all those browsing this entry, I look forward to marrying you in 2012!

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Personal, spiritual wedding ceremony at the Cornell Club

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Rob and Marisa, as you may know, first chatted on December 28th, 2010, which happens to be Rob’s birthday. Their conversation flowed spontaneously and without effort. They shared stories and laughed. The worries of the world faded. Both felt comforted, as though they recognized a kindred spirit. They arranged to meet in Forest Hills two days later on a very cold winter day. In fact, some of you might recall the infamous snow storm that had nearly paralyzed New York that week. They chatted in the Austin Diner over ten cups of chamomile tea and coffee each. Kicked out at closing, they detoured to a most romantic and appealing space called “McDonald’s.” There the date continued. In total, this first date lasted fifteen hours…until the next train made its way from Forest Hills to Kew Gardens at 5:45 a.m.

More dates followed. Every meeting quickly filled with an amazing mix of joy, adventure, and tranquility. A date planned at the Metropolitan Museum of Art, for example, accidentally became a date at MoMA. After walking through the displays of color splashing bearing a remarkable similarity to the displays at IKEA, they walked along Sixth avenue to Central Park for a carriage ride. With the temperatures too cold for most tourists, the park was a refuge. It was a calm haven for their thoughts into which God began whispering to both: “this is the one for whom you have waited.” It did not take long for Marisa and Rob to heed this voice.

It is not the 1950s, but a full grown man dating an Italian woman is still not much different from a guy dating an Italian girl. At some point, Rob had to meet Mr. Barone. And sure enough, Rob did not think Mr. Barone liked his prospective son-in-law much: Mr. Barone left the room during Rob’s visit. Fortunately, Mr. Barone did like him. He requested that Marisa put on a recording of his baritone voice singing in the Steinway Hall upon his arrival in the United States. He even propped up his accordion and played a few tunes for them. They toasted to life and health.

The charm and enchantment of that evening lasted. As the months moved along, Rob started to secretly plan a marriage proposal. Unfortunately, the planning did not go farther than picking the date of September 10th. Luckily, the heavens were more thoughtfully aligning the afternoon. At an impromptu visit to the Shrine of Our Lady of Long Island in Eastport, Marisa and Rob found themselves among twenty couples on a marriage retreat. The priest welcomed them with the words: “we hope you can join us in a future retreat, but first we have to get you married.” Taking the sign, Rob got down on bended knee, pulled out an engagement ring, and asked Marisa to marry him. Of course, she replied “yes” immediately.

Rob, you are Marisa’s heart and peace. You are her rock. As Marisa put it, “it is easy to be there for someone in good times. But it is in the bad times that we truly see the heart of our partner.” Many times over have you proved to be a caring, loving, and giving soul. You make Marisa laugh – sometimes uncontrollably, especially with your imitations of Bill Clinton, Rainmain, Rocky, and Austin Powers. You do your best to please Marisa and bring her joy. She promises never to take you for granted: you are the rare and precious person who is willing to give unconditionally. For these reasons and many more, Marisa is deeply thankful for your love.

Marisa, you are Rob’s mirror. You bring out the best in Rob; you bring out his truest self. All his life Rob has desired someone to hear and listen to him as you do so naturally. Rob sincerely admires your strength and beauty. You are authentic; you are a complete person. He had basically resigned himself to bachelorhood. But your spirit captivated him. He can relax around you. As his favorite audience, you inspire him to be more creative. During turbulence, you lift his spirits. In fact, when you laugh, he tries to be funnier to make you laugh harder. For these reasons and many more, Rob is deeply thankful for your love.

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